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Pavel(17.6.2005, 13:31)

Hi,
my name is Pavel. I live in Haifa. I'm 27 years old. I'm sorry to bother you, but hopefully you can help me.

The story is about my new girlfriend: We met 2 month ago. She is really nice and good looking girl not only subjective by me, but others say the same. She is 26 old years. Well, she is from the begginning of relationship said that she likes when a man controls overher. That's seems fine for me :-). I'm quiet person, but sometime nasty one :-). Both of us almost graduated our B.A (she Frenh history and I Compter Sciences).

Here is the problem: We have a really good sex, but lately she has began to claim that some kind of violence exites her. She asks to hit gently her face and so on. IT MAKES ME FEAR.

I asked if she likes Sado/Mazo - the answer is "no". Well, she has some scratches on her body and she doesn't want to talk about.

Well, she also doesn't have many friends (maybe 3 girlfriends). I really like her, but as I said it makes me fear because I'm suspicious about her past and especially childhood - silent from there.

So, the question is where can I read about or get information about who I'm dealing with. I guess this is a standart situation for psychologist. Any books or other resources are welcomed.

Thank You,
respectfully,
Pavel

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